I've noticed that many parents at my eldest son's school give their children presents after a recital or other performance. My challenge is that our older son (who is nine) is inclined to theater and music, while our other younger boy is shy. It seems unfair to always be rewarding just the performer. Any suggestions?
In addition to finding little rewards that are related to the independent interests of your younger child, you might also link fun activities or treats as a reward for being a well-behaved part of the audience. For young children, the ability to stay attentive, remain quiet and clap at the appropriate moments is a worthy skill. This might be a way to reward both the older child for performing on stage, and the younger child for "performing" in his seat.
What are some helpful hints to encourage my daughter to keep learning and pursue her potential?
Children loved to be rewarded. It's important for them to see the fruits of their labor. If your daughter seems to have a knack for playing the piano; reward her with concert tickets to the symphony. Showing children 'the greats' in their line of interest can inspire them to become better and want to practice.