Can I enclose my bridal registry in my wedding invitation?
Absolutely not! While it is considerate to register for those guests who are looking for guidance on what type of gift to give, registries should never be enclosed in an invitation. Leave it to a guest's discretion to enquire where you have registered.
If I don't attend a wedding, must I send a gift?
If you are close friends with the people getting married, it would certainly be nice to send a gift, but etiquette does not require you to do so.
I know that my niece and her fiancée would greatly appreciate money as a wedding present-though they haven't specifically asked. Is it considered bad form to give money as a wedding present?
Cash would be a lovely gift-especially when you know that the couple will appreciate it.
May I display my wedding gifts at a home reception?
Yes. And checks and gift certificates may be displayed with the amounts concealed (under glass). You may also list individuals who have given checks or gift certificates on a plain white card.
My parents told me that it is considered rude to bring a wedding gift to the reception. Why?
Traditionally, gifts are sent to the home of the Bride or to the address on the invitations. It can be cumbersome for a wedding party to manage a stack of presents at the reception, and cards may become separated from the gifts-making a thank you impossible to write!
However, some cultures do include wedding gifts at the reception, so this rule may not always apply. If you are unsure, it would be wise to check beforehand.
How long after a couple has been married do I have to send the wedding gift?
Would it be rude if we sent pre-printed thank you cards for our wedding gifts? How soon must thank you notes be sent?
Thank you cards should be handwritten with a specific mention of the gift-and a personal note about how much you will enjoy it. Send thank-you cards no later than two-weeks after receipt of your gifts.
Our friends have some very expensive items on their registry. Would it be OK for a group of us to give a "joint" present?
Yes, a gift from a group of friends is sure to be appreciated. Do make sure that the accompanying gift includes the names of everyone who has contributed.
Is it all right if I have a bridal registry for my second marriage?
Many of the traditional rules around a second marriage have relaxed. It is fine for you to register, but only mention the registry if you are asked. Also, guests are not required to give guests at a second wedding-though most will be delighted to do so.
I'm getting married for the second time. Is it OK for my friend to throw a bridal shower in my honor?
It's absolutely fine. Many people getting married for a second time may need household items just as much as those in a first marriage. If that is the case for you, a shower is a wonderful way for friends and family to show their support.
I have friends who are both getting married for the second time. They already have everything that they need for their home. What should I get for them?
While guests are not required to give gifts at a second wedding, if they are your good friends they would certainly appreciate your thoughtful gesture. Here are some ideas for the happy couple:
- Tickets to the opera with opera glasses
- Picnic hamper and gourmet goodies
- His-and-hers pajamas
- Breakfast in bed tray
- Hammock built for two
- Case of wine