Who traditionally hosts a shower? Can my mother host the event?
Traditional etiquette suggests that a close friend hosts a shower, and that it is inappropriate for the mother or sister. However, protocol has relaxed. Some mothers and sisters will co-host or help pay for a shower.
Are shower invitations different from other types of party invitations?
Yes, in that a shower invitation will typically mention what type of gift to bring. Most other invitations don't mention gifts.
Must a shower have a theme?
No, a shower certainly doesn't have to have a theme. Many hosts simply prefer a theme because it is helpful for guests who are selecting a gift, and the theme can relate to a specific need or interest of the Bride, Groom, groom or couple.
Who should be on the shower list?
Some showers are small, intimate affairs, while others are quite large. Either way, only those who are invited to the wedding should appear on a shower list. Typically wedding attendants, close friends and relatives attend a shower.
I've been invited to my friend's bridal shower and her wedding. Should I give a separate gift for each occasion?
Yes, a gift should be given at both events if you are planning to attend.
If I don't attend a wedding shower, must I send a gift?
If you are close friends with the people getting married, it would certainly be nice to send a gift, but etiquette does not require you to do so.
Three different people are throwing bridal showers for me. Can I invite many of the same people to each shower?
While you may have a few of your closet friends (or attendants) at each of the showers, one does not typically invite the same people to more than one shower. In special cases where you friends or relatives may be attending more than one of your showers, make sure to let them know that they should not bring a gift to more than one of the showers.